Enjoy topping men!
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You might as well ask, “Do cis women enjoy using strap-Ons with their partners?”
As someone with significant dysphoria regarding my genitalia, I have never enjoyed using said parts sexually with others. Basically, they go numb, which means I have alarming stamina for the act itself if I can divorce my mind from what I’m doing.
Prior to starting HRT, and during my brief stint at trying to be more masculine, a last-ditch denial of my identity, I tried topping. I allowed a male partner to perform oral sex upon me, and I topped two other male partners over the span of the next year.
I found my partner’s pleasure to be quite satisfying, but I did not enjoy it, sexually. Later, I used my vibrator to penetrate a male partner (with his consent obviously) and found that a much more enjoyable experience than using my own parts.
The idea of my male partner being the receiving partner during anal sex does not bother me in the slightest, but with me, it will only be from toys, not from my own genitals. As I explained to one gentleman caller, they’re for decoration only, a display piece.
All that said, I know other trans women who are perfectly comfortable using their genitals to top, though the majority experience dysphoria when doing so.
As someone with significant dysphoria regarding my genitalia, I have never enjoyed using said parts sexually with others. Basically, they go numb, which means I have alarming stamina for the act itself if I can divorce my mind from what I’m doing.
Prior to starting HRT, and during my brief stint at trying to be more masculine, a last-ditch denial of my identity, I tried topping. I allowed a male partner to perform oral sex upon me, and I topped two other male partners over the span of the next year.
I found my partner’s pleasure to be quite satisfying, but I did not enjoy it, sexually. Later, I used my vibrator to penetrate a male partner (with his consent obviously) and found that a much more enjoyable experience than using my own parts.
The idea of my male partner being the receiving partner during anal sex does not bother me in the slightest, but with me, it will only be from toys, not from my own genitals. As I explained to one gentleman caller, they’re for decoration only, a display piece.
All that said, I know other trans women who are perfectly comfortable using their genitals to top, though the majority experience dysphoria when doing so.
Personally no, but I am not everyone, so I am sure they do, so the answer is yes. It would feel weird, I don’t find that position or role too exciting.
I’ll be really frank, I would ideally want a man to penetrate my vagina but being pre-op, I don’t have a vagina yet/That would seem so natural to me.
I’ll be really frank, I would ideally want a man to penetrate my vagina but being pre-op, I don’t have a vagina yet/That would seem so natural to me.
The vast majority do not. This is something that is very common in porn and very common when it comes to escorting but very uncommon in real life.
You are probably about as likely to find a trans woman who wants to top men as you are to find a cis woman who wants to top men with a strap-on (pegging). I did meet a friend’s roommate who was the only straight woman I’ve ever met who openly owned a strap-on. She was very attractive and sexually open and if men wanted to have sex with her, she made them submit to her first.
But dominating men is just not the way most women (trans or cis) want to have sex. Women often want to be swept away by a strong man. That’s why it’s the plot of every romance novel and movie. I was a 20-year-old, 5′6″, 120lb, and my boyfriend was 25, 6′3″, 250lb+ gym rat and former bouncer. He could easily pick me up and throw me on the bed. A lot more women are into that than into topping guys.
You are probably about as likely to find a trans woman who wants to top men as you are to find a cis woman who wants to top men with a strap-on (pegging). I did meet a friend’s roommate who was the only straight woman I’ve ever met who openly owned a strap-on. She was very attractive and sexually open and if men wanted to have sex with her, she made them submit to her first.
But dominating men is just not the way most women (trans or cis) want to have sex. Women often want to be swept away by a strong man. That’s why it’s the plot of every romance novel and movie. I was a 20-year-old, 5′6″, 120lb, and my boyfriend was 25, 6′3″, 250lb+ gym rat and former bouncer. He could easily pick me up and throw me on the bed. A lot more women are into that than into topping guys.
So, if that’s what you’re into, you’re pretty much going to have to pay for it.
