Figure out!
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When you masturbate, do you think of one particular gender more than another? If you don't masturbate or don't think of any particular gender, you could be asexual. If you think about both genders equally, then you could be bisexual.
Discovering one's actual sexual orientation is a participatory process. It cannot be done in a room by yourself. It requires you to get out there and physically interact with others. You need to have not only sexual contact but develop romantic relationships as well. This is not experimenting but an essential part of growing up.
Despite having had an experience when I was 21/22 with a male family friend who masturbated me and sucked me off, and I found I liked having a man doing it to me, I only had sex with women. As the years went by, I married/divorced and raised my daughter, a single-parent dad. Still, I noticed that every time I remembered the incident with the family friend, I became aroused by it and when watching porn, I would find myself watching both gay and straight sex films; this led me to wonder if I might be bisexual, so when my daughter left home, I decided to look into that attraction I felt more and see how I felt about it,
I met a guy from a gay/bisexual dating site at my house, and by the time he left, and we had done mutual oral sex and masturbation, I had also fucked my 1st guy. I knew he wouldn’t be the last as it felt right to be doing it with a man as well as with a womanist knew then that I wasn’t straight but bisexual, and I haven’t looked back since I was fucked by another man myself for the 1st time last year and found I liked it being done to me as well as doing it.
I met a guy from a gay/bisexual dating site at my house, and by the time he left, and we had done mutual oral sex and masturbation, I had also fucked my 1st guy. I knew he wouldn’t be the last as it felt right to be doing it with a man as well as with a womanist knew then that I wasn’t straight but bisexual, and I haven’t looked back since I was fucked by another man myself for the 1st time last year and found I liked it being done to me as well as doing it.
Who do you find attractive? Who do you want to get physical with? Who do you imagine spending the rest of your life with? Whose touch electrifies you and makes you aroused? Sexual orientation is as much about romance and desire as anything else. It is much less about the actual act of sex than many people think - for example, not all gay men like anal sex, and not all straight women like vaginal sex, and so on. Who you are attracted to is much more important than what kind of sex acts you prefer.
