Dislike Straight Men?
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Because they’ve turned my sexuality into a porn category. Because I routinely get harassed, threatened, and assaulted whenever I say I’m gay.
Because my “friend” forced himself on top of me because he just couldn’t “get over” the fact that a “pretty girl like me” is gay. Because my butch lesbian lovers/girlfriends are harassed for the way they cut their hair, wear their clothes, and walk.
There are a lot of sarcastic things I could retort this with, but I will give a plain answer:
Many straight men are obnoxious and self-absorbed. I don't mean that all straight men are awful, but most of the straight men who interact with lesbians, and bi or pan girls, are usually trying to “convert” us or generally just cause annoyance. If it makes a straight man uncomfortable having a man flirt with them, why do they shove their own fists in their mouths by hypocritically flirting with gay girls? It is rude and annoying when you ask someone to stop being flirty with you and they ignore your basic human rights.
Again, I would like to point out that not all straight men are like this, and some of my closest friends are straight guys, but some girls just have worse experiences than others. If you are a guy, and you think lesbians hate you, you have probably done something to warrant it.
Many straight men are obnoxious and self-absorbed. I don't mean that all straight men are awful, but most of the straight men who interact with lesbians, and bi or pan girls, are usually trying to “convert” us or generally just cause annoyance. If it makes a straight man uncomfortable having a man flirt with them, why do they shove their own fists in their mouths by hypocritically flirting with gay girls? It is rude and annoying when you ask someone to stop being flirty with you and they ignore your basic human rights.
Again, I would like to point out that not all straight men are like this, and some of my closest friends are straight guys, but some girls just have worse experiences than others. If you are a guy, and you think lesbians hate you, you have probably done something to warrant it.
That's such a broad question, it's really hard to answer. Why does any person hate any other person?
In my life as an out gay woman, I've encountered only 2 lesbians who hate men - both of them had really terrible experiences with men. Not rape, but years of emotional abuse. I've encountered way more straight women who hate men - probably for a similar reason.
I do know a lot of lesbians who are angry about the abuse of male privilege in the world...that's not really the same thing as hating men, but I could see it sounding the same to people.
So, not knowing any details, I'm going to guess that what you're hearing is lesbians being disgusted by the way men as a whole treat woman as a whole. The lack of respect for women, the intrusion into their rights - right down to their rights to make decisions about their own bodies - the even more callous and casual way with which men typically cast women as bit players in their narratives, there to serve as reward and servants only.
It's not that lesbians generally hate men, but many of us do hate the way men treat women.
In my life as an out gay woman, I've encountered only 2 lesbians who hate men - both of them had really terrible experiences with men. Not rape, but years of emotional abuse. I've encountered way more straight women who hate men - probably for a similar reason.
I do know a lot of lesbians who are angry about the abuse of male privilege in the world...that's not really the same thing as hating men, but I could see it sounding the same to people.
So, not knowing any details, I'm going to guess that what you're hearing is lesbians being disgusted by the way men as a whole treat woman as a whole. The lack of respect for women, the intrusion into their rights - right down to their rights to make decisions about their own bodies - the even more callous and casual way with which men typically cast women as bit players in their narratives, there to serve as reward and servants only.
It's not that lesbians generally hate men, but many of us do hate the way men treat women.
Probably because some straight men decide to be assholes and keep hitting on and harassing a lesbian, they want to have sex with. If that happens enough to a particular lesbian, she may grow a large chip on her shoulder and dislike straight men because of her past experiences.
A lot of it comes down to respect. I don't think for an instant lesbians hate straight men overall. I do think lesbians hate being disrespected and particularly having their sexuality disregarded because some straight men want to have sex with them.
It's not finding a lesbian attractive that is the annoyance. It's the behavior that some straight men exhibit it.
