I think I might need to add more details to this question to avoid offending anyone. I recently made friends with a woman at work. We started talking about it late last year but we started getting closer about 4 months ago. When we started talking, I didn't know that she dated women.
I am a woman who has only ever dated men. I have a child and I am in a relationship with a man. However, as I was getting to know her, I found myself getting more and more attracted to her. I talk and think about her all the time but I know that there isn't anything I can do about it. She is such a nice person and I don't want to bring my drama into her life but it is really hard to be around her because I want to kiss her and even do more. We have this amazing connection and as hard as it is to be around her, I would rather do it because I absolutely love talking to her.
Before she mentioned, literally this week, that she dated women, it was much easier to ignore my feelings because I could tell myself that she wasn't interested. However, after hearing about this it's much harder to keep my feelings to me because as I mentioned earlier, I refuse to bring my drama (possibly bi-curious, mother, in a relationship with a man that I broke up with after I found out he cheated on me but went back to, to try one more time because we have a child together). That is not fair to her.
In the question, I asked about a lesbian but I am not even sure if she identifies as a lesbian or bisexual, she was just talking about a woman she dated. I don't think it’s my place to give her a label when she hasn't assigned herself one.
I, myself, wouldn't label my sexuality because I had a real emotional dilemma when I was in high school, I had a crush on a friend and I thought I might be a lesbian. I even considered suicide because I come from a black family with a strict and judgmental religious mother. I suppressed those feelings for a long time and I went out with 1 guy for 13 years. The relationship wasn't necessarily the healthiest one but he just felt familiar, so I stayed. I have had many lesbians ask me out in the space of those 13 years but I didn't feel the same way. I didn't really know them and it was easier to use my relationship as a scapegoat. I haven't thought about a woman in this light or felt such strong feelings for another woman until I met this woman and it is very hard. I am considering putting some distance between them but I don't want her to think that it is because of what she revealed to about her sexuality.