married and bisexuall????

[Mooncup]

I'm 39 and married...I've had a stronger than normal desire to be with another lady for at least the past year. I have sexual admiration for other women, and if I'm honest with myself, I've always been attracted to women, it's just been in secret. When I'm alone and masturbating, I exclusively watch lesbian porn. I just (within the last 6 months) told my spouse about my wants and attraction to women, which he finds attractive. He has recently developed an interest in some elements of male/male sex. The desire to explore with a woman is increasing, and I'm not sure what this means or what I should do about it. I realize that when women become older, they get more inquisitive...that is exactly me!!! Any ideas or suggestions?

 

[tiana]

Do you believe it will be purely sexual attraction or that you will become emotionally attached? Do you have feelings for your husband? I believe that trying it out with a lady would change a lot of things between the two of you, so maybe you should talk about it first?

 

[iammeg]

If you and your husband are bisexually inquisitive and agree to attempt to engage with bisexuality, you can try to find a relationship with a bisexual/bi-curious female; sexual orientation cannot be suppressed; it is preferable to accept it.

 

[Munet]

I believe you should meet another couple that have or desire to have bisexual inclinations. I am a man who discovered late in life that he is bisexual. I like sex with men but am still drawn to women. You may both explore your bi side with a bi couple.

 

[Mooncup]

I ageee with, and I'm starting to see why. I'm trying to figure out why my "desire" is so intense right now. I know it's always been there, but I've always been able to repress it or simply ignore it. But now I can't stop thinking about it! Thank you very much.

 

[friendlyfire]

If you're both experiencing similar feelings, why not go with the flow and test the waters to see where the tide takes you? If your love is strong enough, your relationship will thrive regardless of what happens.

 

[IceCream512]

I'm guessing you've been married for a time. Our motivation diminishes as we age, and the customary no longer works. Naturally, your thoughts begin to wander. I believe that watching porn accelerates this process.

So long as you're communicating. You will keep it lady to woman, and I believe your spouse will be okay with you trying it.

After 20 years of marriage, many people feel the same way you do.