Whether or not it's appropriate to say so, I'm in a lesbian relationship. How can I tell? As soon as we started dating, I informed her that I don't like sex. I'm looking for a long-term connection that doesn't involve sexual activity. She told me she felt the same way so, obviously I thought she wouldn't press the issue. Now that we've moved on, she and I were at a friend's house for a celebration. A few drinks in and she'd been hanging out with me for about two hours when she started being inappropriate. I escorted her out the room to make it clear that PDA was not acceptable in my presence. I can recall exactly what she said. "Your infidelity is obvious to me. Seeing how you flirt with other people, I can tell that you're a good person. Who are they with you? Yes, you most certainly are. Is it possible that you don't think I'm beautiful enough? What if you're afraid of getting into bed with me? The fact that you don't like sex proves that you're either a liar or some kind of crazy." Afterward, I felt horrible (although I was and am not cheating). Of course, I apologized and stated I hadn't realized she was that furious with me before. After that, she began to "feel me up," if I recall correctly. I yanked her away from me and yelled, "It's not the right time or place for this. We may discuss this further when we return." Just as I was about to go, she snatched my wrist and shouted, "Why are you such a prude?" as she forced me against the wall. We went back to the party since I didn't have an answer.
I'm having a hard time justifying her conduct. Was a little tipsy. I had hurt her sentiments by being insensitive to her. When she tried to be affectionate, I turned her down.
My questions are: How can I get this to stop happening? We're both girls, and slapping each other during a quarrel is commonplace. If I had wanted to, I could have slapped her in the face. However, I'm stumped when it comes to the subject of sex. That would make her feel that I'm not attracted to her or that I don't want her, but having sex with her is not an option for me. Isn't it better to simply have sex with her? I'd be grateful for any ideas you have! Thank you for taking the time to read this.
I'm having a hard time justifying her conduct. Was a little tipsy. I had hurt her sentiments by being insensitive to her. When she tried to be affectionate, I turned her down.
My questions are: How can I get this to stop happening? We're both girls, and slapping each other during a quarrel is commonplace. If I had wanted to, I could have slapped her in the face. However, I'm stumped when it comes to the subject of sex. That would make her feel that I'm not attracted to her or that I don't want her, but having sex with her is not an option for me. Isn't it better to simply have sex with her? I'd be grateful for any ideas you have! Thank you for taking the time to read this.
